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Read more“Being in a loving relationship augments our caring and compassion for others, in our family and in our community” – Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, p. 259
Spouses: Love Your Marriage As You Love Yourself
"Being in a loving relationship augments our caring and compassion for others, in our family and in our community" - Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, p. 259 This has got me thinking about my great grandparents on my mom's dad's side. Mennonite farmers. Small town...
Read more“Books and cleverness! There are more important things! — Friendship and bravery!” – Hermione Granger
Hermione Granger and Emotional Intelligence
What helps kids grow to be Emotionally Intelligent young adults? How can we help the Ron Weasley’s of the world become emotional-intelligence superstars like Hermione Granger?
Sexual Compatibility: Your “Let’s Get It On” Could Be A Real Turn Off
Sexual compatibility can be greatly improved within most loving relationships.
Read moreTherapy can help people drive their own bus after feeling stranded in the dark.
How Therapy Helps 2: Drive Your Own Bus Where You Want To Go
Therapy helps when we need someone to join us on our path with clarity, acceptance, and empowerment.
Read moreIf you’re standing at the bottom of a hill with friends, it will appear less steep and easier to climb than if you are alone.
– Lisa Feldman Barrett, Phd
How Therapy Helps 1: Perspective and Clarity
Therapy gives us a chance to climb our obstacles with compassionate, curious, and courageous people. It gives us strength and perspective at times when we feel lost in the clouds.
Read moreIf you don’t change then the rains soon come
– Lauren Hill
How To Un-Love Stuff
On how my wife’s financial clarity helped me build a new perspective on money and freedom. Plus: the scientific answer to why new stuff doesn’t make us happier for long. A primer on how to emotionally unhook from belongings you love while connecting to loved ones.
Read more“[P]eople spend at least half their waking hours simulating rather than paying attention to the world around them, and this pure simulation strongly drives their feelings.”
– Lisa Feldman Barrett, How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain, p. 71.
How To Build Perspective
“[P]eople spend at least half their waking hours simulating rather than paying attention to the world around them, and this pure simulation strongly drives their feelings.” - Lisa Feldman Barrett, How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain, p. 71. The fact...
Worry About the 4% You Can Change (part. 1)
Chances are that you worry about things that are beyond your control. And, if you're like me, you're looking for ways to focus more on the areas you can change and less on what you cannot change. According to a U.S. National Institute of Health study (2001 - a big...
Read more“In wrestling, girls have an advantage. The guys think less of you until you are face-to-face with them!”
– Rachel, age 11, quoted in Strong is the New Pretty.
Strong is the New Pretty: Rachel, Age 11
“In wrestling, girls have an advantage. The guys think less of you until you are face-to-face with them!” - Rachel, age 11, quoted in Strong is the New Pretty. That’s quite the quote, isn’t it? The longer I look at it the more complex it becomes. On the surface, it...