Thinking Wisely Blog
Six Steps To Healthy Anger: Consume Your Anger So It Doesn’t Consume You
Sometimes we need to bottle up our anger, sometimes we need to sip, sometimes we need to share. This article outlines a process for how to use our anger in healthy ways.
Spouses: Love Your Marriage As You Love Yourself
"Being in a loving relationship augments our caring and compassion for others, in our family and in our community" - Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, p. 259 This has got me thinking about my great grandparents on my mom's dad's side. Mennonite farmers. Small town...
Hermione Granger and Emotional Intelligence
What helps kids grow to be Emotionally Intelligent young adults? How can we help the Ron Weasley’s of the world become emotional-intelligence superstars like Hermione Granger?
Sexual Compatibility: Your “Let’s Get It On” Could Be A Real Turn Off
Fear sex? Hate sex? Disinterested in sex? Tolerate sex? Need sex? There is a sexual-spectrum from boiling hot to freezing cold and so many relationships suffer because of the very different meanings sex has for people.
How Therapy Helps 2: Drive Your Own Bus Where You Want To Go
Therapy helps when we need someone to join us on our path with clarity, acceptance, and empowerment.
How Therapy Helps 1: Perspective and Clarity
Therapy gives us a chance to climb our obstacles with compassionate, curious, and courageous people. It gives us strength and perspective at times when we feel lost in the clouds.
How To Un-Love Stuff
On how my wife’s financial clarity helped me build a new perspective on money and freedom. Plus: the scientific answer to why new stuff doesn’t make us happier for long. A primer on how to emotionally unhook from belongings you love while connecting to loved ones.
How To Build Perspective
“[P]eople spend at least half their waking hours simulating rather than paying attention to the world around them, and this pure simulation strongly drives their feelings.” - Lisa Feldman Barrett, How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain, p. 71. The fact...
Worry About the 4% You Can Change (part. 1)
Chances are that you worry about things that are beyond your control. And, if you're like me, you're looking for ways to focus more on the areas you can change and less on what you cannot change. According to a U.S. National Institute of Health study (2001 - a big...