Thinking Wisely Blog
Sexual Compatibility: Your “Let’s Get It On” Could Be A Real Turn Off
Fear sex? Hate sex? Disinterested in sex? Tolerate sex? Need sex? There is a sexual-spectrum from boiling hot to freezing cold and so many relationships suffer because of the very different meanings sex has for people.
How Therapy Helps 2: Drive Your Own Bus Where You Want To Go
Therapy helps when we need someone to join us on our path with clarity, acceptance, and empowerment.
How Therapy Helps 1: Perspective and Clarity
Therapy gives us a chance to climb our obstacles with compassionate, curious, and courageous people. It gives us strength and perspective at times when we feel lost in the clouds.
How To Un-Love Stuff
On how my wife’s financial clarity helped me build a new perspective on money and freedom. Plus: the scientific answer to why new stuff doesn’t make us happier for long. A primer on how to emotionally unhook from belongings you love while connecting to loved ones.
How To Build Perspective
“[P]eople spend at least half their waking hours simulating rather than paying attention to the world around them, and this pure simulation strongly drives their feelings.” - Lisa Feldman Barrett, How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain, p. 71. The fact...
Worry About the 4% You Can Change (part. 1)
Chances are that you worry about things that are beyond your control. And, if you're like me, you're looking for ways to focus more on the areas you can change and less on what you cannot change. According to a U.S. National Institute of Health study (2001 - a big...
Strong is the New Pretty: Rachel, Age 11
“In wrestling, girls have an advantage. The guys think less of you until you are face-to-face with them!” - Rachel, age 11, quoted in Strong is the New Pretty. That’s quite the quote, isn’t it? The longer I look at it the more complex it becomes. On the surface, it...
Headwinds/Tailwinds and The Science Behind Negativity
Do you generally remember more bad events than good ones? Are you a "Glass Half Empty" kind of person? If so, you're probably missing out on a lot of potential for success and gratitude in your life. It's what Dr. Gilovich and Dr. Davidai call the “Headwinds/Tailwinds...
Antifragility and Becoming a Wounded Healer
Humans are not fragile teacups. If you drop us, we might break, but we can heal, and become even smarter, wiser, and more loving because of the awareness and empathy that we gain from suffering. A teacup, on the other hand, does not grow from a challenge. If...