Attention, compassion, and patience applied the right way can bring goodness back to any relationship worth preserving. Sometimes it takes help finding the “right way” and sticking with it! I was reminded of this this morning when my wife mentioned she’s saved the rather unusable brown sugar. The brown sugar in our pantry had become a …
How Not To Let Your Bad Behaviour Ruin Your Child pt. 1: Shame
Parents sometimes act badly and in trying to fix their mistakes, they make the situation worse. Often a parent’s responses to feelings of guilt or pity undermines their child’s capacity to grow as a person. That, in turn, deprives their child of their full humanity. Parental pity or shame makes it harder for kids to …
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Apologies are Vital to Sanity
Honest, well timed apologies are a vital part of emotional health. Both when we give and when we receive them.
Therapist Office in a House?
Some people think a therapy practice at home is weird. Not only at home, but in my living room. It’s not like on the HBO show “In Treatment” where the Dr. Weston has a whole separate entryway for his therapy practice. Nope. When clients come to Pear Tree, they come right through the front door …
Guilt is an Alarm Clock: Let it Wake You (so you can turn it off)
Treat guilt like an alarm clock, waking you up to gratitude and making amends.
Flooded with Emotion? – Flood Proof Your Nervous System
It happens to people all the time: negative emotions like anxiety or anger build up and we flood. We start crying on the bus or yelling at our children (or yelling at the bus and crying on our children). The rivers of emotion simply overflow the banks of our nervous systems and we leak all …
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