Pear Tree Family Therapy continues! During this period of caution and care, I am delighted to continue working with clients. Sometimes they call me from their living rooms; sometimes from their “car office” in order to have some space from their families. I’ve even started helping a few new clients which is surprising and delightful. …
Teach Your Children Beautiful Questions – Part 1
One of the special things about kindergarten, and why it is so important, is that it can be a perfect environment for learning with curiosity and passion. There are no tests to “teach to” and there is very little to memorize. (Though memorizing certain things matters a lot, too.) In kindergarten, it’s still ok not to know the answer to something. In kindergarten, it’s still ok to ask questions.
Fears of a First Time Coach
Two hours before my debut as an U7 baseball coach, and I kept thinking, “What have I gotten myself into?” A part of me even wished we’d have a rain-delay. Yes, I was afraid of little league!
Saving the Sugar in our Relationships
Attention, compassion, and patience applied the right way can bring goodness back to any relationship worth preserving. Sometimes it takes help finding the “right way” and sticking with it! I was reminded of this this morning when my wife mentioned she’s saved the rather unusable brown sugar. The brown sugar in our pantry had become a …
How Not To Let Your Bad Behaviour Ruin Your Child pt. 1: Shame
Parents sometimes act badly and in trying to fix their mistakes, they make the situation worse. Often a parent’s responses to feelings of guilt or pity undermines their child’s capacity to grow as a person. That, in turn, deprives their child of their full humanity. Parental pity or shame makes it harder for kids to …
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Apologies are Vital to Sanity
Honest, well timed apologies are a vital part of emotional health. Both when we give and when we receive them.